How To Get Girls To Like You: Communicate With Girls Powerfully 2

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D. Similarity.
Similarity creates emotional connection, agreement, and comfort—the more similar your listener feels, the more thoroughly she will respond physically and emotionally to the imagery you present. Also, the greater the degree of rapport—the greater the degree of comfort and connection--, the more easily and readily will she supply relevant meanings for whatever vague, abstract language you employ.

Simply put, the greater the degree of your rapport with your listener, the more persuasive and powerful your words will be. That said, how do you create rapport? Number one, Matching your listener’s outward expressions—that is, her bodily rhythms and physical state. Number two, acknowledging or, better yet, seeming to match your
listener’s inner world—that is, her perceptions, beliefs, and assumptions.

You can match your listener’s bodily expressions in some of the following ways: Adopt your listener’s posture, so that if she’s standing, you stand also; if her arms are crossed, you cross your arms also; if she’s plowing her hand through her hair, you run your hand through your hair also. For that matter, when she blinks, you can blink also; when she inhales, you can do the same. You can even talk…at the same tempo…that your listener…breathes. This is called hypnotic tempo, and has a very… powerful… impact… on whoever…is listening. Your mirroring should become more and more exact; subtle and partial at first, then more and more complete.

Typically, when it comes to rhythmic behavior, like blinking, a feedback loop will be
established: she’ll blink, you blink back, and then she’ll blink back faster, etc. Matching someone’s behavior causes them to feel similar to you, and as the feeling of
similarity strengthens, they’ll begin to match you in response.

You can also match someone’s beliefs, emotions, and ideas. In fact, when you say several things in a row which match someone’s beliefs, they start focusing on what you’re saying to the exclusion of other input. Why? Because you are giving them the
truth, as they perceive it, and the unconscious mind, the instincts crave good, accurate feedback.

Therefore, when you tell people things that match what they already believe or which match what their senses tell them, they feel close to you, focus on what you’re saying, and respond much more powerfully to whatever you tell them—in fact, if you say many many things in a row which match their beliefs, they will go into the focused, emotionally engaged, emotionally accepting state we call trance.

E. Vagueness.
How do you know what to say, in order to match your listener’s beliefs? Well, sometimes you don’t know—so just use vague language, language that doesn’t specify how what you are talking about looks like, feels like, sounds like, tastes like, or smells like. Let your listener’s imagination fill in the gaps.

Why should you use vague language? Because if you have rapport—if you are matching the listener’s beliefs, so that your listener begins to instinctively trust what you say—your listener will fill your vague, abstract language with content which is meaningful and appropriate to her. If you say, “I saw a great painting the other day—its colors were rust and purple and yellow and black,” well, she might not think
those colors are the basis of a beautiful painting. You might break rapport.

If you just say, “I saw a beautiful, beautiful painting the other day,” and look and sound as if you were, at that very moment, seeing a beautiful painting,that would likely be quite sufficient to help her feel as if she was seeing a beautiful painting. An abstract word, a word with no specific sensory information—no indication as to what should be seen, heard, felt, smelled, or tasted—is like a big net being dragged through the ocean.

An empty word, backed by rapport, gathers meaning and substance, just as the net,
though empty, catches fish, and gathers weight. The greater your rapport, the more likely your listener will fill the net with meanings that he or she will agree with, which in turn will deepen her rapport and lead her more deeply into a receptive state.

This is why many hypnotists, and many politicans, and many preachers, beyond a certain point in their presentations, speak almost entirely in abstractions. They’ve matched your beliefs, secured the trust of your instincts, and built emotional momentum, so now they can be increasingly vague while the vague things they say seem increasingly true and feel increasingly compelling.

Be specific, describing things in terms of the senses, to engage the imagination; be similar, to create rapport; and then be vague, to encourage your listener’s imagination and emotions forward in the directions you’ve established. Once you secure rapport, vagueness intensifies rapport